Melissa Ottum, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist | Registration Pending · Supervised by Jay Alarcon, LMFT #134460

For partners

Couples Therapy in San Diego

For partners who want to slow down the cycle they keep getting stuck in and rebuild the connection underneath it. Premarital and marital work are both welcome.

What we'll work on

Rebuilding the connection underneath the conflict

Most couples don't need to be told what's wrong. They need help slowing down the reactive cycle that pulls them apart, so the softer feelings underneath can come forward again. That's the heart of our work.

  • Communication and conflict cycles
  • Rebuilding closeness and trust
  • Premarital and marital counseling

Slow the cycle

We map the pattern you and your partner get stuck in, so it stops running the show.

Reach for connection

We uncover the attachment needs underneath the conflict and build new ways to reach for each other.

Talk differently

You'll practice turning toward each other instead of away, one conversation at a time.

Curious whether we're a fit?

A free 15-minute phone consultation is the simplest way to find out. No pressure, just a real conversation.